so Disney decides to make a movie about The Day of The Dead. COCO. and a major player in the movie revolves around photographs.
if you haven’t seen it. well hell just go back and like the post and follow me on Instagram 😂.
so in order for the dead to cosss over to see their loved ones on the day of the dead and celebrate with them. someone pretty much has to have a photograph of the person that has passed with an ofrenda “offering”.
i can remember my mom setting her alter out every year. she would set out her candies for her little sisters or nephews that past away as kids, she would also put out food like a soup or something simple. and of course she would put out some pan dulce & coffee. so also at the end of the day or for lunch have whatever she had set out for them. you know i could see my grandmothers. my father in law. my sisters mother in law. my aunts. her friends all having their pictures out. i’ve been fortunate to not have so many people close to me leave me.
seeing pictures of my grandmother from my mom side takes me back to my youth as an 8 year old kid. that’s her on the left side in that pic. i’m 40 now so it’s getting harder and harder to remember her. she was from a small town outside of Mexico City so she didn’t come to visit much and we didn’t go as often as we would have liked. my dads mom got most of the summers because she was from Reynosa, Tamaulipas just across the border near McAllen. so i just remember her watching us when she would visit the US. yes it was much easier back then. but she was a disciplinarian and didn’t take no shit from anyone. much less from us spoiled kids. she always had the fly swater ready. but i also remember her being funny. just in the way she spoke. yall know how chilangos talk.
so like i said. it’s getting harder and harder to remember who she was. what she was like. how she smelled. her voice. the way her hands felt. she didn’t have soft hands. they were rough. hard working hands. but damn they could make some tortillas. she would cook them on a small pit outside on the floor. no stove. just simple pit with enough room for a coffee pot and room to make those tortillas. oh and she loved pan dulce with her coffee. that was a must and a treat for us. as we at at her home by candle light. there was no electricity at that time. it was the only time we ever got to drink coffee. we would dip our concha in and let all that awesome sweet coffee soak in. it was well.....you know. *Side note
my all time favorite is the maranito 🐖 ok as you were.
back to COCO. So the main thing as the movie goes on was that if you were already dead and someone forgot about you and didn’t put an ofrenda out......well you were just gone. gone forever. like forever ever.
that to me was sad as hell to see. *side note
i wasn’t crying you were crying by the way
anyway....to not have anyone in life or future lives pass on who you were. mostly because of a photograph......... a photograph. a simple but also complex piece of paper. a moment in time that was stopped. it’s cliche as hell but i freeze time. no one ages. no one changes. if you are happy your happy forever in that moment. if your sad well you will forever remember the sadness of that particular moment. they are remembered exactly as i photographed them. damn! i’ve taken getting ready shots. ceremony shots. family shots. shots of family and friends dancing. details. minus a few things once or twice. but i’ve tried my best at the time to get everything photographed.
so long story short.
we all want to be remembered.
remembered on our birthday. remembered to get an invite somewhere. remembered by getting a phone call or text from someone. but there is nothing like remembering someone. remembering what the day was like. smells. voices. songs from the day or just the feelings you get when you see a particular moment or person.
so if you see a picture of me or from me. do me a favor......don’t forget about me say hi every now and then.
gracie & annabelle escandon
i won’t forget about you. 😔
yall be sure to remember me when your wedding comes around. i’m not the best i just want to be the best for you on your day.
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